Loveless Marriage – I just can’t do it anymore, what should I do?

When you come to a place with your spouse where love no longer exists, it’s time to begin considering dissolving your relationship.

Here are some questions we like to ask our clients when we first meet with them:

• Do you feel like all the love, care and affection your spouse showed in the past is now completely gone?
• Do you see love re-entering your relationship with your significant other in the future?
• Are you willing to take the first step to bring love back to your marriage?
• Are you willing to show kindness first, then work on the more significant issues?
• Can you become your spouse’s best friend again, then work towards becoming their lover, cheerleader, and helpmate?

There are always three basic choices to consider:

First, is to do nothing, leave things as is. Would you be ok with that?

Second, is to work on the relationship through marriage counseling. This can be done for a certain period of time or be open ended. Both partners need to be willing to participate and do the work in order for counseling to have a chance at working. Are you willing to do the work? Is your partner?

Third, is to end the relationship. Are you ready for this? How do you think your partner would react?

Some mental health professionals offer “discernment counseling” to help couples consider these three options.

How you answer these questions can help you determine if separation is the best course of action.

If you’re not sure, come check our Divorce Options Workshop. By learning about divorce and the different process options available you can maximize your ability to make good decisions during this difficult and challenging time.

The Collaborative Divorce process is an alternative dispute resolution method that can assist you and help maintain your family unit while staying away from court litigation.

The Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego is a nonprofit, multi-disciplinary referral network of independent professionals of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial advisors working together to learn, practice, and promote Collaborative processes for problem solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues, with an eye toward preserving the emotional, as well as the financial assets of the family.

Contact us today to see how we can help you and your family thru this difficult separation process. You don’t have to do this alone, we are here to help you, your spouse and children!

Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or medical advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, medical or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.