Tips On Getting Through the Holidays When You Are Divorced
Divorce is messy, and it often leaves a family feeling broken – such a tragedy, especially when it happens during the holiday season, and you are left to pick up the pieces and move forward the best way you can.
But, when you and your spouse utilize the collaborative divorce process, you will have the help of divorce professionals that will help you and your spouse move through the holidays in a more supportive way for now and into the future.
Here are a few tips our team suggests that can help your family get through the holiday season:
- Be kind to yourself – you have been through a significant life event that will take time to heal from
- Lower your expectations – the holidays are not meant to be social media post-worthy, they are about family and friends and spreading hope and peace
- Be flexible – holiday plans are almost always fluid – you never know what new experiences lie ahead
- Make plans with friends or family
- Consider volunteering at a food bank or serving holiday dinner to the homeless
- Plan a trip
- Next year, during the summer months, work with your ex on a holiday visitation schedule – this can help avoid last-minute anxiety
- Give yourself permission to enjoy the holidays in whatever form they take
Being realistic about your holiday expectations can help reduce your stress and allow you and your family to find peace during this holiday season.
Our team of experts can help you, and your spouse create a holiday custody plan that is mutually agreeable for everyone, including your children.
The Collaborative Practice of San Diego is a nonprofit, multi-disciplinary referral network of independent professionals of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial advisors working together to learn, practice, and promote Collaborative processes for problem solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues in regard to co-parenting, with an eye toward preserving the emotional, as well as the financial assets of the family.
Contact us today to learn how collaborative divorce can help your family unit stay intact this holiday season.
Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, medical or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.
