I Am Considering A Divorce – Now What?
You are up nights thinking about a divorce. You cannot sleep.
You aren’t alone.
Sleepless nights and anxiety often occur with divorce.. Folks just like you have dealt with and overcome such fears, and you can too. Where do you begin?
Speak to Professionals
Fear isn’t your friend when you need to make critical decisions. The antidote to fear is information.
Good decision-making starts with good information, and educated professionals are where you should start. To start with, attend a Divorce Options™ Workshop and find out about the different types of divorce options and what they entail. Whether to divorce is a very difficult and personal decision. The next most important decision, is HOW to divorce. It is helpful to know what your choices are, the different processes available, what each might look like, and what’s expected. It’s all great information to have and will relieve a lot of stress and anxiety.
Speaking to Family and Friends About Divorce
Family and friends may be a tremendous source of support, or not. They also can be a source of fear and anxiety. Everyone has a war story or knows somebody with a war story. Someone else’s war stories aren’t about you or your divorce. Knowing someone else went through a divorce may be a comfort source. But, the drama of someone else’s divorce doesn’t need to be your drama. Every divorce is different. As with the internet, family and friends may be an overwhelming source of good and bad information. It may be challenging to tell the difference between toxic drama and good information. Be mindful not to become overwhelmed and distracted by someone else’s drama while attempting to gain information that is useful to your situation. Your BFID (Best Friend in Divorce) is the one who keeps you calm and centered and does not add to the drama.
Why Is It Important?
A divorce can be a lot less expensive and easier if it’s properly handled. What does that mean? It means that decisions should be made from shared goals and values. Decisions should be made after considering various options that are evaluated with based on good information. Fear shouldn’t be a factor in the process of decision making. It’s normal and reasonable to experience anxiety and fear. But instead of giving those emotions a seat at the negotiating table, you can manage them with great information.
The collaborative divorce process is a much more private, peaceful and respectful divorce process than a litigated divorce.
For more information on the collaborative divorce process contact collaborativepracticesandiego.com today!
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