Should You Stay Together for the Kids?
Have you and your partner been going through the marriage motions for months now? The conversations have become shorter, the silences longer, and you’ve both started wondering if this is really working anymore and getting a divorce or separating would be better.
Staying in an unhappy marriage for your kids teaches them the wrong lessons about love. They’re watching how you treat each other, and that becomes their understanding of what relationships should look like.
But here’s what you’re probably noticing… Your children already sense something’s wrong. Kids pick up on tension long before parents say anything out loud.
When your home is filled with resentment or uncomfortable silence, children often feel it’s somehow their fault or that they need to pick sides. They may even try to fix what’s broken between you, carrying emotional weight they shouldn’t have to bear.
You don’t have to pretend everything is okay to give your kids stability. Sometimes two peaceful homes provide more security than one filled with tension.
If you’re worried that divorce means ugly courtroom battles and endless conflict, that concern makes sense. But divorce doesn’t have to destroy what remains of your marriage.
Collaborative Divorce offers an entirely different approach. Instead of fighting through lawyers in court, you and your spouse work together with trained professionals who guide respectful conversations.
This process is far more amicable than traditional litigation. You’re making decisions as a team rather than letting a judge who doesn’t know your family decide your future.
Your children benefit when they see both parents cooperating through difficulty. It shows them that even when relationships change, respect and kindness can remain.
Collaborative Practice San Diego is a nonprofit, multi-disciplinary referral network of independent professionals of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial advisors working together to learn, practice, and promote Collaborative Processes for problem solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues in regard to co-parenting, with an eye toward preserving the emotional, as well as the financial assets of the family. Contact us today!
Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.
